The Truth about Husband Wife Relationship

Parents swear, and children suffer 2Understanding the dynamics of any relationship is always an arduous task. The whole issue becomes harder when you try to make sense of the unique and often unfathomable depths of the relationship between a husband and a wife. In a marriage, various issues come into play and it is vitally important to understand this relationship if you are looking for success in your marriage. Often, marriages do not work out because either one, or both partners fail to realize that there are some basic differences between them that may cause them to approach their problems in different ways. As the popular book puts it, it’s almost like the wife and the husband are from two different planets! So is there any way to reconcile the difference? Sure there is!

 Differing approach to problems

 For instance, when the wife starts facing some problems, she would like to talk about it and share it with her friends. By talking about her issues, she is often able to come up with answers to her problem. A man on the other hand, is more tight-lipped about his issues. When a difficulty crops up, he would prefer to keep it to himself, until he is able to come with a solution. Of course, it is understood that not all relationships shall follow the same pattern.

In a marriage, this difference in approach is vital. If both the partners are able to understand and respect the approach of the other, certainly major problems will not arise. However, in many cases the man thinks that his wife is talking too much about an issue, while maybe all she wants is to come up with a solution. This miscommunication ends up souring the relationship further. So if you find that you are having problems in your marriage, try looking at the situation from another point of view – do you notice something different? Well, that’s probably how your partner views the problem.

Talk, talk, talk

Again, there are times when the husband wants to talk about his problems. However, he does not really want any advice or help – he just wants to be heard. The wife unfortunately, often takes this to mean a plea for help and begins to advice her partner on how he should manage things. This in turn, makes the husband unresponsive and uncommunicative, thus effectively complicating things between the couple.

Most of the time, when your spouse is talking about the issues that are bothering him/her, it might be simply because they need to share it with someone. So before you begin to advice him/her, asked them if they really need your opinion or just a loving and sympathetic ear.

However, the key to understanding the relationship between a husband and wife lies in your ability to realize that both the partners in a marriage are not same. They belong to two different sexes and as such, their approach to marriage, love and life will vary. Therefore, next time you get exasperated at your partner’s behavior, try to think from his/her point of view – trust me, you will gain a better insight into the relationship!

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2 Comments

  1. Joe Taylor

    on 21st Sep, 09 09:09pm

    I couldn’t agree more.. I’ve been married roughly 7 years. And we have a few issues; one major.. but I won’t go there, lol. But we are good at talking most of the time and working through things.

    ..as long as she isn’t on facebook or on the phone. I noticed that’s when she sort of tunes me out. ;)

    -Joe

  2. Nic

    on 22nd Sep, 09 10:09am

    Hi Joe, It appear’s from the tone of things that you’ve found the one setback in your relationship. Here’s a sure-fire tip. The secret to a successful relationship is to share. Discuss with your partner – have a heart-to-heart talk today, go ahead share your fears.

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