Secret Relationships – Are They For Me?

iStock 000000247557XSmall 201x300 Secret Relationships – Are They For Me?If you have always loved a bit of intrigue in your life, you will perhaps enjoy the excitement and spice that a secret relationship adds to your life. Indeed, secret relationships look like a lot of fun initially, and can help you and your partner to have a lot of fun by dating on the sly and sharing a secret that is between the two of you. However, unfortunately, in the end, such relationships might not last because it involves a lot of added stress and deception that will begin to put strain on you and the relationship.

 The rough path

Secret relationships are common, but the problem is, they involve many difficulties. For instance, if your relationship is a secret, you shall never be able to talk about your partner when you are in the public. In some cases, you will not even be able to go out in dates with your partner. In addition, when you are in a social situation, you tend to talk about the partner a lot; but in this case, you will have to control yourself so that you do not allow anything to slip out.

 Mentioning something simple like what you and your partner saw or did last weekend will be a taboo. Added to this, your partner will have to carry on the same secret ritual in his/her social circle. Thus, between the two of you, this secrecy can add up to a lot of trouble, tension and stress.

 Hidden from public view

 In a secret relationship, you will not even have the freedom to enjoy each other’s company in a public place, or walk down the road holding hands. With the passage of time, small things like these shall begin to create many problems in your relationship. However, if you are good friends which has now blossomed into a relationship, then the secret relationship can work out well for you. Often, friends who have turned into lovers prefer to keep their relationship a secret for various reasons.

 Many feel that the rest of the friend circle will not be able to accept their relationship. In addition, they feel that if their relationship ends, their friends shall not have to go through the lousy process of being choosing sides. Others fear that their relationship might be “jinxed” when made public. However, on the down side, you will always have to act as friends when you are in a group and can never enjoy each other as lovers. This can get quite unnerving after a point of time.

 All in a day’s job

Often office romances force the relationship to be kept a secret because if the relationship is made public, it might be discouraged. At the same time, if the relationship does not work out, you will not have to face any awkward moments when you are in the office. In cases like this, having a secret relationship is important. However, it is not always healthy. 

Illicit romance and secret

Sometimes a relationship requires secrecy when it is illicit. If you are having an extra marital affair, or if you are cheating on your partner, you are required to keep your relationship a secret. However, these kinds of relationship are extremely. In addition, if you are the one who wants to keep the relationship a secret, while your other half wants people to know about it, your relationship will suffer huge problems and there is very little chance that your relationship can survive.

Finally, what emerges is that, if you are looking for a healthy and happy relationship, you should not keep it a secret for too long. Enjoy the initial glow of the romance in secrecy and later, when you feel more secure, share the news with people who matter in your life.

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